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This is not something we would usually like to talk aloud in public or share thoughts of experience as we live in conservative society. Timid enough people instantly judge negatively. So, let's open up abit as ii am posting an unusual topic for the first time... ii am no expert, but is something we should take note of.
Lovemaking should be both men and women feeling satisfying with each other, but men often feel an orgasm but rarely does for women...which has wrongly lead to perceived male satisfaction and female frustration - it should be mutual satisfaction. Despite today's more sophisticated understanding of human anatomy, this beliefs persists and it is one of several reasons that some women fake orgasms during lovemaking. Women are unlikely to speak up in bed as they have less power within romantic relationships. Sexual satisfaction is just as important for women, both mentally and physically, and in fact, a woman' orgasm is more glorious than a man's in measurable ways.
To some innocent women, indeed lovemaking is "unhygienic and disgusting", but we cannot run away from the "facts of life" - reproduction. Marriage has changed; nowadays husband and wife are both working and both taking care of the children, and they're too exhausted and resentful to have 'pleasure'. Caught between the myth consensus that sexless marriage is the norm, couples can be forgiven for feeling confused. Yet there is strong romantic current in our society believe that sex and love should go hand-in-hand - not masturbation *lol* -, that primal sexual urges can somehow be yoked to love and their union to true happiness. Have you watch "Friends with Benefit"? Why some of them fall in love after several lovemaking. Sex is love. Love = Sex.
When men and women made pact for the first time, they tend to react somewhat differently. It's natural for them to compare two-person sex with their own solo experience (virtually all males and most females masturbate). For the man, lovemaking is usually a major improvement because the way lubricated "vege" (hers) stimulates his "twinkie". For the woman, early experiences with lovemaking are often disappointment because her "bead" gets little or no stimulation. To add to this confused disappointment, woman fears of getting pregnant, worries about sexual infections and her uncertainty about the emotional side of things (Does he really loves me? Will he dump me and find another girl after this? Will he tell his friend(s)?). If you are still unsure with your significant other, practise safe sex.
